01 — The Night
What to do in the first ninety minutes.
For the night when reading a long chapter is the last thing you want to do.
Open it. Follow the steps. Deal with what happened before it becomes a six-day sentence.
The fall costs you an hour. What you tell yourself afterwards costs you a month.
This won't give you ninety clean days. It will change what a fall costs you — with a practical 90-day protocol, five standalone tools, and no surveillance, public confession, or another promise you have to keep.
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Everyone talks about Thursday night. It is Friday you should be looking at.
Friday is when the vow you made last night becomes something you already broke.
It is when the shame starts talking.
It is when a man can decide the whole day is already ruined, so what difference does one more bad decision make.
And Sunday is when he sits in church, sings the songs, greets people at the door, and feels like the worst person in the building.
Then sometimes he stops going.
Not because one night happened.
Because of what he decided that night meant about him.
The fall costs you an hour. What you tell yourself afterwards can cost you a month.
I know that sentence because I said it to myself for years.
I am not writing this as a man who has everything solved. I will tell you exactly who I am further down this page.
But I learned something that changed the way I looked at the problem:
A fall is evidence about what happened. It does not have to become a verdict about who you are.
You have probably tried the obvious things.
Prayer.
Fasting.
Deleting the app.
Deleting the history.
Blocking websites.
Making another promise.
Starting again.
Sometimes you genuinely meant it.
And then, weeks later, you were back in the same place.
Maybe you told someone once. Maybe you opened the chat, stared at the words, and closed it again.
Maybe you did tell someone, and they gave you the same answer you had already been giving yourself.
Pray harder.
You were already praying.
The problem is not that you have never tried.
The problem is that most advice tells you what to do about the fall.
Very little tells you what to do after the fall.
And almost nobody tells you to study what happened around it.
The hour.
The room.
The phone.
The state you were in.
The route you took before you even realised where you were going.
You cannot change a pattern you have never written down.
What if the fall tells you something useful?
Before I wrote The Sunday Man, I read more than 20,000 comments across 28 comment sections and forum threads from men discussing this subject.
What kept appearing was not a neat line from struggle to victory.
It was restarting.
Day three.
Day seven.
Day twenty.
Then:
I relapsed. Starting again.
What you almost never see is the man at year two still making videos and comments about being at year two.
He may simply have stopped talking about it.
That matters because the people you compare yourself against online are not necessarily a complete picture of the room.
And it led me to a different question:
What if the useful information is not “Why am I like this?” but “What keeps happening around this?”
Start with the conditions.
One of my own bad nights was not dramatic.
It was an ordinary afternoon.
I was alone. I had time. I had data. I was moving between apps without thinking much about it.
There was no major crisis I could point to.
There was a room, an empty hour, and a phone.
Those are facts about what happened that day. They are not a complete description of me.
Conditions can be written down.
Patterns can be noticed.
Routes can be changed.
That is what this protocol is built around.
The Sunday Man
A 90-day protocol for the Christian man who has deleted the app, prayed the prayer, and gone back anyway.
Nine chapters. Five practical tools. Six PDFs.
This is not a devotional and it is not a sermon.
It is a practical system for paying attention to what happens before and after a fall, understanding your own pattern, and deciding what to do next.
What you should have by the end of the 90 days
A record of your pattern. The hour, location, state, route through your phone, and other conditions you actually observed — rather than somebody else's theory about you.
A plan for the first ninety minutes after a fall. Something you can open when concentration is low instead of trying to invent a response in the middle of the night.
A different way to read what happened. Not pretending the fall does not matter. Refusing to turn one event into a permanent sentence about your identity.
And what it will not do
It will not promise ninety clean days.
It will not monitor you.
It will not report you to your church.
It will not ask you to make another public declaration.
It is not counselling and it is not medical advice.
It is a practical protocol. Nothing more, and nothing less.
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Nine chapters. Each one has a job.
1You Have Said Day One Before
Where you actually are, why comparison can distort what you see, and why this protocol will not ask for another date, vow, or declaration.
By the end: you can stop treating another restart as proof that nothing can change.
2What A Fall Actually Means
The central reframe. Separating what happened from the sentence you put after it.
By the end: you have a written alternative to the old verdict.
3The Ninety Minutes
Six steps for the first ninety minutes after a fall, plus what to do the following morning.
By the end: you know what to do next instead of losing the rest of the week.
4What Is This Actually Doing For You
A benefit audit. Not “is this wrong?” — you may already know your answer. The question is what you believe you are getting, whether it lasts, and what that tells you.
By the end: you have a clearer picture of the exchange you keep making.
5Finding Your Pattern
How to collect your own evidence across the 90 days and identify the conditions that repeatedly appear.
By the end: you have a trigger map built from your own history.
6Riding It Out
How to build simple if-then plans around the situations where you tend to lose the decision before you realise you are making one.
By the end: your response exists before the difficult moment arrives.
7The Telling
How to decide whether to tell someone, who to choose, what to say, and what to do if the conversation does not go well.
By the end: you have a possible first sentence, even if you never use it.
8Making The Bad Night More Expensive
Practical changes to the routes and conditions that make the pattern easier to repeat.
By the end: the familiar route has more friction around it.
9When This Isn't Enough
The boundary chapter. What to do when a book is not enough, how to recognise that point, and where to look for additional support.
By the end: you know when the honest next step is outside this book.87 pages. Written to be read on a phone, by someone who may not be having a good week.
Five tools you can actually use.
Chapters get read. Tools get returned to.
Each tool is a separate PDF, so you can open the one you need without searching through an 87-page book.
02 — The 90-Day Log
Your own evidence.
A simple record of what happened around a fall or close call.
Over time, the entries give you something more useful than a vague feeling that “it just happens.”
03 — The Four Letters
Four letters for four points in the 90 days.
Letters dated for day 3, day 21, day 45 and day 90.
The day 45 letter does not assume everything has gone perfectly. It is written with the possibility of another fall in mind.
04 — The First Conversation Card
If you decide to tell someone.
Five tests for choosing the person. Three scripts. A plan for a bad reaction. And a route for the man who genuinely has nobody.
You do not have to turn one private struggle into a public confession.
05 — The Benefit Audit
What is this actually doing for you?
What do you believe the behaviour gives you?
Does it actually give you that? How long does the benefit last? What does it cost?
No inflated value. No fake “worth ₦50,000” maths. It is a worksheet, and that is enough.
Who this is for
- You have been restarting for a long time. You may have said “day one” more times than you can remember.
- You have tried the familiar things. Prayer, fasting, deleting, blockers, promises, accountability — or several of them.
- You take your faith seriously. The tension between what you believe and what keeps happening is part of why this is difficult to talk about.
- You are often the reliable one. The person people call when they need help can have a much harder time admitting that he needs help himself.
- You want something practical. Not another speech about why you should already have stopped.
Who this is not for
- Anyone under 18. This protocol is written for adults.
- Anyone in an acute crisis. If you are thinking about ending your life or you are in immediate danger, a book is not the right size for that situation. Seek immediate help.
- Anyone looking for a guarantee of permanent abstinence. I do not have one, and I will not sell you one.
- Anyone who needs clinical care. This is not counselling or medical treatment. Chapter nine explains when additional professional support matters.
Who wrote this?
Fair question.
Ekene Bassey is a pen name.
I am not a doctor.
I am not a therapist.
I am not a pastor.
And I am not presenting myself as a man who has permanently solved this.
I built this from personal experience, research, and the patterns I kept seeing in what men were willing to say when they thought nobody was watching.
I am further down this road.
That is the honest version.
I would rather tell you exactly what this is than make myself sound more qualified than I am.
What it costs
Before the price, consider the thing the next 90 days are already going to cost.
The next three months are coming whether you buy this or not.
You will have another 90 days.
The question is whether you want those 90 days to give you a written record of your own pattern and a practical response for difficult nights — or simply another stretch of starting over.
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What you are probably thinking.
“Why would a PDF do what God has not?”
It would not.
This is not being offered instead of prayer or faith. It is the practical part: paying attention to the conditions around the pattern, recording what happens, and deciding what to do next.
“I have bought Christian books on this before.”
So have many men.
This one deliberately does not promise a perfect streak or treat a fall as proof that you are hopeless. It starts from what happens after the fall and works forward from there.
“Who wrote this? He will not even use his real name.”
Fair.
Ekene Bassey is a pen name. I use it because I still attend a church in Nigeria and I am not willing to make a private struggle public simply to make the sales page look more impressive.
I am also not claiming professional credentials I do not have.
“There are no reviews.”
There aren't. This is new.
I would rather say that plainly than manufacture proof that does not exist.
“I will read one chapter and never open it again.”
You might.
That is why the five tools are separate files. The one you need at 2am should not be buried on page 61 of a book.
“What if someone sees it on my phone?”
The files are designed with discretion in mind. Their names are not written as a confession to anyone who happens to see your downloads.
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“I am too far gone.”
Then I am not going to promise you that 90 days will magically solve everything.
That is one reason chapter nine exists. Sometimes a book is enough for one person and not enough for another. Knowing the difference matters.
“₦7,500 for a PDF?”
You are not buying one PDF.
You are getting the 87-page protocol plus five standalone tools — six PDFs in total.
And you pay once. There is no subscription.
Why not later?
I am not going to manufacture urgency for you.
There is no countdown clock.
There are no “three spots left.”
There is simply the fact that the next 90 days are coming.
You will reach them either way.
You can use them to collect your own evidence, build your own map, and have a practical response ready for the difficult nights.
Or you can reach day 90 having simply started over again.
The choice is yours.
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I wrote the policy this way because asking someone to explain a private struggle to get his money back is unnecessary.
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One thing, and then I will leave you alone.
You do not need to become a different person tonight.
You do not need another dramatic promise.
You do not need to convince yourself that the next 90 days will be perfect.
Imagine something smaller.
A Friday morning that is simply a Friday morning.
A Sunday where you can sit in church without spending the whole service doing arithmetic about how long it has been.
A difficult night where, if you fall, you know exactly what to open instead of lying there deciding what kind of man you are.
A record of your own pattern that you can actually read.
That is what this is trying to give you.
Not a promise of ninety perfect days. A different way to handle the next ninety.
The fall matters.
But what you decide it means matters too.
You can study what happens.
You can write it down.
You can decide what happens next.
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P.S. — If you skipped to the bottom, here it is.
The Sunday Man is a 90-day protocol for the Christian man who has deleted the app, prayed the prayer, and gone back anyway.
It will not promise you ninety clean days. It gives you a practical way to understand your pattern, respond after a fall, and make the next 90 days different from the last.
87-page book. Five practical tools. Six PDFs. ₦7,500. Instant access.
Get The Sunday Man — ₦7,500